(it has taken me about 3 days to be able to get this entry up! grrr to probs with Diaryland)

Updates are getting more and more infrequent, and I’m feeling more and more guilty about it!

Some fantastic news though.. J has gotten a job! He started work today as a clerical officer for the same Department I work for. He contacted a job agency, and they then searched for jobs for him. It was a complete coincidence that they found him one in the same government Department! If he was in the same office as I then I’d have some problems with that, but thankfully it’s at a completely different office that I have no involvement with.

I’m really pleased he’s finally working, and think it will be a wonderful thing for him. J hasn’t truly ‘worked’ for a very long time and having something to do each day, being busy and meeting new people besides people I know will be a great thing for him.

Now he’ll truly be able to sympathize with me when I come home and want to do nothing but sleep!

I put these pics up the other day but then realised I had them at an absolutley monster size so I removed them almost immediately!

Below are our rings.. plain and simple but I love them. The only difference between them is the size and J’s band is slightly wider.

What do you think?

Intimacy issues.. getting much better.

We’ve had some big talks about it, fault on both sides and something that we are both resolving. We’re working harder at making the time for us to be alone and are doing rather well at that.

Even little things like a few minutes to be a little ‘naughty’ (which doesn’t mean actually ‘doing’ anything) helps and adds a little something. Might sound silly but it all counts (to me anyway.. but then, I am just weird!)

It might just be me, but I need to know that I’m desired and wanted.. going to bed and wanting to just initiate things right then won’t work for me. What about all those other times? Am I only wanted at bed time? These are the types of things we talked about and is all fixed!
So yay for us!

Sexual frustration is being addressed! (well.. as much as possible living with the family! Really need our own place – another issue altogether!)

The handfasting/wedding plans are almost all ready to go, things are all taken care of.

One little niggling thing though..

J’s family in Ohio said that they want to come down for the handfasting and that they have the money to do it also.

We were so excited when they told us this a few months ago, as J misses them so much and we really would love them to be there at our handfasting. J even got their documents ready in one place before he left so that they could easily go and get their passports.

The problem though.. is that it’s now the end of March and they have yet to do anything at all in relation to organising things to come down here mid June.

They haven’t gotten their passports yet, they haven’t bought tickets, and J’s dad has only just requested a week off work.

They are such very bad procrastinators, and if there’s one thing that will irritate me above all it is procrastination.

I keep having these images in my head of grabbing the front of their shirts and shaking them! Now I’m not a violent person, but this is getting silly!!

We need to know one way or another if they’re going to be here.. we need to organise accommodation for them, transport, I’ll need to take time off work, need to figure out who will get them from the airport, need the correct numbers for the reception and to order food.. it’s all connected, and until they tell us one way or another we can’t finalise any of those things.. and I hate that feeling!

I completely understand if they can’t make it.. if they can’t afford it or wont be able to have the time off. But to say they’re going to be here, and then do nothing to actually make that happen really irritates me!

I just want to know.. one way or another! Don’t think I’m asking that much..